Is Late Night Room Service a typical sex party?

Abso-freakin-lutely NOT.

And this is not to diss what anyone else is putting on for the public - but junk food-drive thru experiences are just not our thing.

Rhys and I are making every effort to curate spaces that feel like the very thing we’ve struggled to find successfully anywhere elsewhere.

The sharp edge of the unknown softened by trust.
Rooms where queerness, curiosity, and emotional fluency are welcome.
A standard of erotic culture that honors both your body and your boundaries.
A safe space, led by professional sex workers and held with precision.
Not a free-for-all, neither a performance.

Just carefully considered environments where curiosity, autonomy, and connection are prioritized at every level.

As someone who is naturally driven to aesthetic, artistic, sensory activated, high value environments - LNRS is as opposite to sleazy sex party one can imagine.

Not only are the energetics a massive point of difference, but there’s also the aspect of these parties being held from a trauma informed perspective, too.

Yes, Late Night Room Service parties are as hedonistic as one would imagine - but they are meant to be a whole hearted experience for people who care about the connective tissue that comes with conversations as good as foreplay. We flirt intentionally, hold space for the nerves, welcome vulnerability and optimize the environment for as many personal/physical breakthroughs as possible.

Plus - show us another play party that has food, drinks, high class amenities and a discreet facility to house your horniest thoughts and fuel the energy you need for hours of fun?

Late Night Room Service is different than any sex party you’ve been to, and we’re eager to show you why.

Do I have to be bi-curious to attend?

One of Late Night Room Service’s largest points of difference is that we are a queer positive space. All members of the LGBTQIA+ community are encouraged to attend. While there is no pressure to engage with the same ‘sex’ as you, nor do you need to identity as bi or pan to attend; what’s imperative is that you are not an unsafe person for those who are.

How can I find your event calendar?

All Late Night Room Service event dates will be posted on the homepage of our website and social media posts. Not only does subscribing to our email list ensures you get first dibs on new event announcements, but it’s the only way to get on our waiting list, too.

What does the flow of a typical night look like?

National events kick off at 8pm, whilst international events kick off at 6pm.

One of our facilitators typically meet guests at a prior-confirmed check in point and you’re escorted to the space itself.

While we don’t have a bartender for discretion and privacy purposes, drinks are available for you to enjoy upon checking in to the suite.

The first hour or so is focused entirely on introducing ourselves, connecting via quality conversation, discussing our desires, boundaries, prev. experiences, lending a voice to our vulnerabilities and getting a feel for one another’s energy.

We can’t stress the impact of what those first few hours do to inspire a sense of safety before moving into the bigger flirting & mingling phase.

From here, things unfold organically and ramp up accordingly till around 12 where we start to unwind, deploy aftercare and get ready to close out around the 1 am mark.

Where are Late Night Room Service events held?

Our play parties take place in a variety of locations, but they’re usually in high end hotel penthouses and suites. This gives Rhys and I access to assistance from staff, hotel amenities, catering and last minute room order service for anything we might need.

Our guests then have the option to book in for the night for an easy tuck into bed after a big night out!

As an FYI, our attendees are never required to check in or sign in.

No one will know you’re there but us.

Much like classic sex work, these hotels work on a need-to-know basis…and what we’re up to isn’t something they need to know.

We' usually sign a party waiver but the rest involves lots of respect and discretion on our attendees part to ensure we don’t jeopardize our working relationship with these establishments.

Events will always be held central to the city.

Are there any expectations placed on attendees?

The only expectation placed on guests is their understanding that both the safety of other guests and the seeking out of consent are two non-negotiables when attending one of our events.

Whether you’re brand spanking new in the play space, are a bi-curious babe taking a chance on the unknown, are a full blown exhibitionist or curious voyeur - we’ve well and truly got you covered.

Otherwise, there is no pressure to perform placed on any guests. Ever.

I’m worried I won’t be attractive enough to attend or I won’t be attracted to other participants.

After years in this space, I can tell you hand on heart that this insecurity (felt or projected) is the most frequently voiced concern - and I totally get it. 

I can share with utmost confidence that this thought process, this panic, this nervousness, this obsession we have with vanity metrics is as invalid as when you’re in bed with a lover and you’re imagining them analyzing your rolls and critiquing your body, when actually - they’re simply counting they’re lucky stars that they get to be in your presence.

When people allow themselves to fully lean into a reality where they believe themselves to be more than enough, and they grace other people with that same generous assumption - magic unfolds.

Every ounce of these experiences feel poetic and out of this world. Flesh is flesh is flesh. But energy, heart, intent - that’s what’s makes a person truly mesmerizing, and we could all do with tapping into that mindset and making the most of how we show up.

To note, all bodies are welcome at LNRS so long as there are no mobility issues that will impact your ability to participate.

Are there any phones or cameras allowed?

Phones have to be put away for the duration of the event unless you’re leaving the room. If you have to take an urgent call, please let Rhys or I know so that we can supervise and attend to maintaining the integrity of the space.

What are the policies around alcohol consumption?

Late Night Room Service isn’t a sober event but alcohol consumption is limited and monitored to make sure that no one is participating inebriated.

We serve guests 4 alcoholic drinks which accounts for one standard drink an hour. Non-alcoholic drinks are served for the duration of the event, too. This includes water, soda water, juice, soft drinks, kombucha, coconut water, coffee, tea and so on.

How many people typically attend each event?

We are capping attendance for all future events at 25 people.

Are there a minimum number of attendees required for the event to run?

Yes, and this is especially important for national and international events that have much more significant expensing. Should there be a lack of quality applications and we fail to hit minimum numbers, the event will unfortunately be postponed or cancelled. This is why it is so necessary to be proactive with your interest and lock in a spot if you’ve been invited.

Planning these events requires a lot of foresight and confirmed attendance helps us manage cashflow and prevent events from being cancelled.

Minimum numbers will be different for each event but I will always keep you in the loop!

Are tickets available for purchase at any time?

Application processing and ticket sales will close out 30 days prior to the event date.

Do you have a waitlist?

Yes we do have a waitlist. The only way to get on this waitlist is by subscribing to our email list.

Waitlisted applicants will receive no more than 48 hours prior to the event to plan their attendance. Please ensure you are available to accept the invitation on short notice before joining our waitlist.

Are couples welcome to attend?

Of course! All relationship dynamics welcome but we ask that securely attached individuals who have a proven history of effective communicating and conflict resolution need only apply.

Each side of the partnership must fill in an application and consent to participating.

First timers are fine, so long as they’ve worked through what might come up and how to go about moving through it when it does. If you’re unsure whether this experience is right for you and your significant other, please message me privately to discuss.

What is the age range of attendees?

Part of curating the space means considering the energetic capacity of everyone involved, regardless of age.

Our attendees are 20,30,40,50,60 years young and it really just depends on the group in question. 

You'd be wildly surprised at how beautifully cohesive a space is when every person and their contribution is carefully considered.

And of course, general ethics make the basis of what ages we include, too.

What does the gender balance look like?

Because safety is such a huge part of the experience, men will remain the minority attendee to keep things balanced.

This might seem confronting, but let me explain.

The physical presence of many men can feel overbearing and overpowering, very quickly.

The physical presence of many men can trigger previous trauma associated with assault in survivors who are partaking in the space.

In addition to this, too many men might lead to women believing they have to perform and/or make their bodies available to appease the experience of male attendees.

We don't want ANYONE attending to feel like they have to engage in penetrative intercourse, therefore - leaving the space open with gentler options to those exploring their queerness is more important to us then sex for the sake of sex.

Lastly, many women and non binary folks are attending are attending to bravely confront and explore their repressed bi nature. While we want the whole buffet to be available in a perfect world, we're not as focused about creating the ideal heteronormative fuck fest.